“How does therapy move forward?” and “why doesn't it seem to sometimes?”  Nearly everyone who begins therapy will come up against both of these questions.  Both questions are potentially very complicated to answer.  Therefore, it will be the place of this article to only touch upon a basic way of illustrating some of the more general components of the processes involved.  Then some of the complications people may confront will be introduced.  As long as we keep it basic I believe that you will be able overlay or insert your personal experiences and then maybe recognize and prevent the stoppages and encourage the forward progressions.

The accompanying graph has two horizontal lines, which are labeled “Consciousness” and “The unconscious.”  These can be thought of as the individual’s ability to be aware, i.e. conscious, and the reality that sometimes we are not so aware of some things, i.e. the unconscious.  An example of how we are not aware or are unconscious of something is simply your name.  Your name remains unconscious until someone calls you by it or you see it written or as you are possibly thinking about it just now.

So, back to the graph: The top line labeled “Consciousness” can be thought of as the materially physical and the temporal, time-dependent aspect.  It is the part that you experience in you daily life and the part that your immediate awareness recognizes.  The past, present and future are all on this line and you recall it based on its chronological order.  The “Start of Therapy” could easily be the “start of the day” or the “start of the workday,” it represents the first session of therapy.  Therapy continues down this line with positive, negative or “new” events.

Therapy, however, does not move forward as easily and obviously as would your workday or any other day of your life.  Therapy is, or at least should be, a very different experience from your normal daily life.

The main reason why therapy is vastly different is the therapist should be looking for what comes out of your unconscious.  This is unlike the interactions you will have with other people in your daily life.  Normally people are just concerned with the “face-value” of what you are saying and how it effects them: “You want a Kit-Kat,” “Well I like Snickers.”  The therapist is listening for your likes and dislikes, for sure, but they are not then comparing them to their own.  The therapist is paying attention to your unconscious desire to talk about candy bars instead of the original reason you started therapy.

Now back to “why does therapy seem to stop?” Positive and negative events occur all throughout therapy.  One day therapy seems to click and you really feel like “I get this and I like it,” but then the next week there seems to be something off and for that matter you don’t even recall any of the positive events from the last week. 

A very simple way of illustrating this is the dynamic between the two lines on the graph.  It is very easy to be happy or fulfilled by therapy on a good day where you experience what seems to be a positive movement forward; however, when that event is over, and for that matter even when a negative event is over, the idea of the event moves from your consciousness to the unconscious.  

Now the trick is that once it is in the unconscious there is no particular temporal placement for it and it is not easily recalled.  The positive or negative events are both moved into the unconscious and are held there with all of the other events that have occurred in your lifetime waiting for a reason to be recalled consciously or being recalled unconsciously or unexpectedly because there was an associated event, similar to when your name is called out to you.  The unconscious does not “discriminate” what goes in or what comes out and does not therefore “stop” therapy.

What will stop therapy is the lack of communication between the therapist and yourself.  The unconscious is always communicating to your consciousness.  It is not always communicating in the language that you recognize.  Why were you taking about candy bars again?  It is the place of the therapist, their skill and experience, to build the relationship and rapport between them self and yourself, that is the communication between you and the therapist is model for the communication between you and your unconscious.  This constant communication between yourself and the therapist mimics your unconscious and consciousness communication and will keep the therapy moving forward. 

By Mathew Quaschnick

Transference is a psychoanalytic term originating in the early work of Sigmund Freud.  The term has been utilized to refer to the same "experience" in therapy but, depending upon the theorist discussing the concept, it is always described in many different ways.  This makes the term very unique, very powerful but also very difficult and sometimes useless.

 The experience of transference occurs on the side of the the person engaged in therapy, that is it originates in the client's psyche.  It is a psychological process that moves from the psyche of the client, via projection, onto the therapist.  "Countertransference" is the term utilized when the therapist has the experience themselves.  Just as the client is normally unconscious of the projection, so will the therapist not normally recognize or be conscious of the projection he imposes onto the client.  The therapist may have the skill to prevent themselves from projecting and awareness to notice that they are projecting depending upon their level of skill and self-awareness.

The fact that there is a projection is what distinguishes transference, regardless of whether it originates in the therapist or client.  However, to maintain a sense of simplicity and to entertain the idea in a basic way transference always begins in the client and moves toward, or is projected at the therapist.   The essential qualifying factor for transference is that an emotion is engaged by and then elicited, projected by the client at the therapist and that the client then believes, consciously or unconsciously (more on the importance of it not needing to be conscious below), that the therapist behaved or acted in a way to warrant the emotion.   The therapist, if conscious that he is eliciting the emotion can then investigate/analyze "why" the emotion was elicited, but if he is unconscious that it was elicited due to "transference" then the therapist is, at best without a direction to assist the client in healthfully processing the emotion--which is not good; and at worst, the therapist may become offended or lash out at the client--which is detrimental.

The therapist should know that the he  should -- NOT -- engage on a personal, or directly emotional level with the client otherwise the therapist risks the relationship and any potential positive therapeutic value that is inherent to the projected emotion.

Jaques Lacan utilized what he called the "L schema" to assist would be therapists (Psychoanalysis calls a therapist a "psychotherapist" and a client and "analysand").  Without going into too great of detail the basic idea behind Lacan's schema is that the therapist should not engage with the client from a person-to-person, or ego based perspective.  They should instead engage the client from the Symbolic Register (or Symbolic Level).  They should attempt to remain in a virtual state of reflection and not submit to the emotions.  What is the symbolic value of the emotion and NOT "why the hell did you [the client] call me a bastard!?!"

If the therapist doesn't know to NOT respond on the level of ego, or the Imaginary Register, then the therapy will more then likely devolve into an argument; thereby, greatly negatively impacting the relationship and potentially blocking any further positive therapeutic outcome.  Transference can come from either direction but how the trained representative reacts to the individual situation is the key to any positive therapeutic outcome.  

By Mathew Quaschnick

There is one "best" thing in the world to help reduce anxiety, to increase mental clarity and ability to focus, and for increased general well-being: Deep Breathing!

You can live for days without food, up to a month, approximately 44,640 minutes.
You can live for days with water, up to a week, approximately 10,080 minutes or more.
But you can only live for 3 to 5 MINUTES -- without OXYGEN!

Deep breathing is IMPORTANT...

Yet, most of us are unable to spend more than a few minutes bringing our awareness to our breath.  And this is usually only during a "sigh" or the point in the day when the stress of the day was too great that we take what we think is a healthy deep breath.  The problem is usually with the mechanics or "way" we take that deep breath.

Granted any extra oxygen that enters the system is going to be somewhat beneficial and potentially reduce anxiety or center you, that is as long as you are not hyperventilating.

How to deep breathe:

The most important aspect of deep breathing is making sure when taking an "in-breath" that your stomach is extended outward.  Your diaphragm, the main muscle for breathing will be contracted.  When you breath out, the diaphragm will be relaxed, and your stomach will move in.  It is most important to focus your awareness on this in/out movement of your breath and your diaphragm.  If you notice, the "in" breath happens when your stomach is moving out, and when your stomach moves in you should be exhaling the breath "out."  So one way to picture this is with a +/- vs -/+.  There are never two "+'s," i.e. NEVER an in-breath/in-stomach, nor two "-'s," i.e. NEVER an out-breath/out-stomach.  

It is ALWAYS one or the other but NEVER both "ins" or both "outs"...

In stomach - Out Breath, +/-
Out stomach - In Breath, -/+

Or,

Out Stomach - In Breath, -/+
In Stomach - Out Breath, +/- but NEVER +/+ or -/-  

This may seem difficult to control in the beginning but after time and some perseverance you will be able to re-establish a healthy breathing pattern that will last throughout the day and there is a lot more to learm but this is the "best" place to start.  

You should try to learn to deep breath the same way you attempt to learn a new language or to play a musical instrument: Multiple (3-5 times) short (2-5 minutes) per day.

By Mathew Quaschnick

Intensive Short-term Dynamic Psychotherapy  (ISDP) utilizes two maps, Triangle of Conflict and of Person, for assisting the therapeutic processing of client behavior.

ISDP favors this schematic for directing the behavioral as well as interventional material within the immediate moment and moments of the session as they are produced in the here and now.  The triangle of conflict represents the dynamic flow of the client's unconscious material.  The triangle of person is meant to pictorially represent the basic reality that the therapist-client relationship.   

There are three main components each representing an active conscious or unconscious dynamic in any given relationship.  The client draws from these relationships: e.g. the therapist "T," past persons "P," and current persons "C" to determine how they should interact with someone.  The client may respond utilizing the "triangle of conflict" when the therapist attempts to interact with the client while utilizing behavioral patterns that the client has utilized in the past.  

For example: If the therapist requests information about the client's presenting concern, let's say, "general depression," and the client talks about how they have not been able to "get to work on time" then this could be a defensive, or "D" response.  The D response is meant to block the feelings, or "F" response, associated with the actual depressive feelings.  If the client was able to answer the question about their depressive feelings then there may have been a chance for processing the emotions.  However, the D response by the client instead wards off anxiety, and is an "A" response, in the triangle.  

All of the points: D, A and F--are connected and each time that the therapist asks a question or implements an intervention there is a chance for one of the resulting points [D, A and F] to be utilized by the client.  It is not as simple as always wanting to get an F response but more so of the therapist being actively aware of each response and then associating the triangle of conflict responses back to the Triangle of People so that the client and therapist can begin to understand the historical as well as current relationships that have and continue to contribute to the client's main presenting problem, aka general depression--but it could be any mental health concern. 

By Mathew Quaschnick

The article "Eight Ways to Actively Fight Depression" describes eight unique ways to take control some of the most common symptoms of depression.  I will, over-time, be incrementally summarizing the ways Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. describes her methods for fighting depression.

1. "Recognize and Conquer Your Critical Self Attacks"
This is one symptom that people suffering from depression most often complain.  The critical attack can take the from of "a critical, self-destructive mentality that interferes with and distracts us from our daily lives."  This is normally associated with a low self esteem and manifests as a "critical inner voice."  This can be internalized at a very early age and makes it one of the most difficult symptoms to actively engage toward positive change outside of a therapeutic relationship.  This is not to say that working outside of a therapeutic relationship is in vain but the intimate connection between self-esteem and your sense of self is difficult to separate from your self, alone and by one's self.  

Dr. Firestone asks you to view the negative self talk as "parasites" that keep you in your bed during a regular physical sickness.  But unlike the physical parasites, which you have no control over, Dr. Firestone advises that you have control over the negative self talk by bringing your awareness to them and actively identifying them as "alien point[s] of view."  She then asks you to critically analyze the thoughts via a projection of them onto those whom you love: "would you think such cruel thoughts about a friend or family member?"  Ultimately Dr. Firestone wishes that you should have compassion upon yourself and that "awareness" of your destructive thoughts will lead to more clear and realistic interpretation of yourself.  By Mathew Quaschnick

2. "Think About What You Could Be Angry At"
The masked feelings of anger can be contributing to your depressive feelings.  There is little doubt that unexpressed anger toward an individual, situation or emotionally significant object needs an outlet.  Dr. Firestone briefly describes how this is the potential case regarding depression.  She makes the suggestion to begin talking to others.  This is a wonderful start but not everyone is comfortable talking about feelings of anger and not everyone has someone to healthfully begin this conversation.  However, there are positive and therapeutic options people can begin utilizing to assist in the healthy expression of anger: 

(1) The long term solution may be to begin talk therapy, and that is not a shameless endorsement of my work.  I have help countless individuals with anger management and depression is a normal response to anger as Dr. Firestone states.

(2) Exercise!  Beginning a daily or 3x per week workout routine, incorporating a martial arts practice, utilizing a heavy bag for boxing, etc... 

(3) Deep breathing: The most important aspect of deep breathing is making sure when taking an in-breath that your stomach is extended outward.  Your diaphragm, the main muscle for breathing will be contracted.  When you breath out, the diaphragm will be relaxed, and your stomach will move in.

(4) Emergency stop gap intervention: If there is no time to perform the above options the next best effort is simply removing yourself, at the time of the feelings, from the source of anger.  You can then "live to fight another day" and not inappropriately express your anger.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201110/eight-ways-actively-fight-depression

By Mathew Quaschnick